Just thinking about my next article and having some trouble.
How would you define the sublimation of the two different personalities into one unit in love?
I'm trying to pinpoint a secret I seem to see in the best relationships, which is not so much a common interest but a willingness to try the others interests or ideas, the fact that people in loving relationships are able to re-define themselves so easily while in those relationships.
Sort of contra-wise to those relationships were each party insists on independence and feel the need to define themselves as separate.
To my mind, the first is a much healthier relationship. What do you think?
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I think love is about truly putting your partner and his needs before your own and of course it has to be a two way street for it to work. The hebrew word for love is "ahava", the root of the word means "give", I really beleive that it's the true definition of love. People are disillusioned by romance novels, movies, etc. to what a good loving relationship should be. Minus the hollywood magic, it's simpy two people that are willing to go to the ends of the earth and give physically, emotionally, and spritually to their partner. thats how you know you truly love someone.
ReplyDeleteDid it ever occur to you that those who are involved in loving relationships are also (usually) those who get along with other people?
ReplyDeleteYour lives shouldn't meld into each other, but if you enjoy each other's silence and can confide in your partner anything that comes to mind, no matter how dark it is, and they will feel hurt for you that you carry that burden and try to help you, then I think you have a pretty healthy relationship. Yes, define yourselves as individuals, but don't be too individual; the whole point of marriage is that "...two become as one flesh", in both thought and action. The individuality can remain, but only based on the relationship that you share with your partner.
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